Energy Givers and Energy Takers

Energy Givers and Energy Takers

They say that when you meet people for the first time it only takes seconds to get an impression. That early impression usually determines whether or not this person is going to be someone who you want to get to know or not. I categorize people into two groups: Energy Givers or Energy Takers. An Energy Giver is optimistic, positive, grateful, sincere and real. An Energy Taker is pessimistic, a victim, negative, a blamer and has never done a thing wrong in their life! When I talk to Energy Takers I find my shoulders dropping lower and lower. After a conversation, which is usually one way, I feel down, depressed and beaten up. They suck the energy right out of you when you are around them. When I talk to Energy Givers I leave the conversation feeling good, upbeat and positive. I look forward to our next interaction. You feel energized when you are around them. Take a moment and think about the people in your life, co-workers, family, customers, friends, and acquaintances. Who are the Energy Givers and who are the Energy Takers? Why do we associate with Energy Takers at all? In some cases you can’t avoid them. If they are co-workers or family it might be hard to ignore them. For the most part, I have had a majority of Energy Givers in my life. This is partly by design as I gravitate to Energy Givers and distance myself as much as possible from Energy Takers. However, just like everyone else, I do have some Energy Takers in my life. I don’t totally ignore Energy Takers...
Life Balance – It is a Choice!

Life Balance – It is a Choice!

If you go to a bookstore or simply Google – Life Balance – you will quickly find a sea of articles and books on the topic. For the most part, people who have Life Balance issues are aware of it. To be honest, it is a personal choice. I’ll use something that I am very familiar with and that is Work/Life Balance. Everyone has his or her own reason for working far too much. It could be for financial needs, demands of the job, personal satisfaction or career building. It could also be because they are poorly organized, have difficulty saying no, are avoiding other aspects of their life like relationships or just have a misconception of what it takes to be personally and professionally successful. When I was in the corporate world and came from the field into an office role I had a very set routine. I would arrive at work around 6:30am and leave around 5:30pm. This doesn’t sound that bad but I would go home every night and have the computer on my lap for another couple of hours. On the weekends I would usually spend at least one day in the office. Why would I do this? For me, I think it was a little of everything that I mentioned above. I knew if I didn’t get something done in the day I could get it done at night or on the weekend. I am not saying this was right; it was just the way I operated. As I reflect, I loved my jobs in the corporate world. Spending extra hours on the job...
WILDLY IMPORTANT GOALS

WILDLY IMPORTANT GOALS

I came from a corporate world that had Wildly Important Goals (WIGS). The concept is not a new one for business (you can read more in book “The 4 Disciplines of Execution” by Sean Covey and Chris McChesney) but I find it is easily transferable from the corporate setting to a personal setting because on the sound thinking behind it. Simply put: To achieve a long term, stretch goal you need to set action plans to achieve smaller goals daily, weekly and monthly that will increase the likelihood of achieving the larger goals (the WIGS). An example would be if you wanted to hit a target weight of 150lbs (your WIG). Your daily, weekly, monthly action plans would be around eating properly, cutting out bad habits and exercising. The basic logic is if you do those things more often you are more likely to hit your target! Easier said than done! Through trial and error I found that there are some key factors and questions that you need to consider if you want to be successful: Goal Setting – Make sure your WIG is something that you are passionate about and truly want to achieve. Set a realistic but stretch time horizon to achieving your WIG. Action Planning – Your daily, weekly, monthly goals need to be SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timely). It is critical that these goals are linked to your WIG. GUT Check – Put reality in motion and look at what you want to achieve and how you are going to do that. Can you do this? Is it too much of a stretch...
Don’t Let Your Inside Voice Get Too Loud!

Don’t Let Your Inside Voice Get Too Loud!

Do you ever notice that whenever you try to break a habit or change a behavior your inside voice seems to get louder! We all have it. That dreaded voice in our head that feeds us with negative suggestions that are a direct conflict with what we are trying to change. That annoying voice comes when you expect it and sometimes it just pops into your head when you least expect it. “You don’t need to run that hard today” “Just one more isn’t going to hurt” “You don’t need to bring that up now, it can wait until later” “Today is not a good day to start that” “Don’t be so hard on yourself, you deserve it” “One bite won’t hurt you” You can call it what you want “Inside Voice”, “Self Talk”, “Inner Coach”, “Inner Critic”. Whatever handle you want to put on it, it is one of the main hurdles a lot of us need to overcome if we want to achieve our goals. We simply listen to the negative inside voice more often than we should. When you actually get to the point where you not only hear the voice but acknowledge the voice is when you can begin to train yourself to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Everyone deals with it a bit different but when my negative inner voice appears it brings a smile to my face because I know exactly what it is trying to do. That in itself immediately triggers me to focus on something different or fight back with positive self-talk. The thinking is that eventually the negative voice...
Making Personal Change Work

Making Personal Change Work

“Change” is an over used word these days. Not a day goes by that personal change, process change, people change, environmental change, political change, global change or some form of change creeps into a conversation. There is change all around us. News Flash: Change is not going away! I have had some good training and practical application of several change management methodologies: ADKAR, 7 Phases of Concerns and The Change Process. The acronyms and names may be different but the overall methodologies are the same. The implementation of change happens in phases or stages. People’s acceptance or resistance to the change could happen at different phases during a change. I believe there are different types of change you have to adapt to. There is change that is imposed on you by someone else and there is self-imposed change. I’ll have lots to say on corporate change or change imposed on you at a later date but I want to focus on people’s adaptation to self-imposed change. Depending on the size of change you want to make, you will need to think about the following things: 1) Why am I making this change? 2) What is in it for me? 3) What resistance will I get from others? 4) Do I have what it takes to make this change? 5) Do I have the skills to make this change? 6) What are the tangible or intangible benefits of making this change?” 7) How will I know when I have successfully made the change? In many cases, when change fails, those implementing the change have not thought about or prepared for...